Welcome to my blog. I believe that intimacy, connection, and pleasure are essential parts of wellbeing, not luxuries. This space is where I share insights to help you understand yourself and your relationships more deeply. Whether you’re exploring desire, communication, or rediscovering confidence, I hope these articles remind you that you’re not alone, and that it’s never too late to reconnect with yourself, your body, and your joy.
– Nicki
Mismatched Desire: Why One of You Wants It More (And What To Do About It)
Mismatched Desire: Why one of you wants It more (And what to do about It)There is a question...
Pleasure Is Not A Competition: Why Ranking Orgasms Is Ruining Your Experience
Pleasure Is Not A Competition: Why Ranking Orgasms Is Ruining Your ExperienceSomewhere along the...
Spillover: When life’s resentments end up in the bedroom
Spillover: When life’s resentments end up in the bedroom “When resentment has nowhere to go, it...
The hidden influence of social sexual behaviour at work
The hidden influence of social sexual behaviour at work
From bedroom to boardroom: Why consent is a life skill
From bedroom to boardroom: Why consent is a life skill“If we can practise consent in our most...
The myth of “Just Get Over It”: Why unspoken issues don’t stay quiet
The myth of “Just Get Over It”: Why unspoken issues don’t stay quiet.“What we don’t talk about...
Why curiosity is one of the sexiest relationship skills we have?
Why curiosity strengthens intimacy (and how to practice it daily)“Curiosity is the opposite of...
Sexual self-love: Why exploring your own body is self-care, not shame
Sexual self-love: Why exploring your own body is self-care, not shameMost people grow up receiving...
Navigating intimacy after kids: Rekindling desire as new parents
Navigating intimacy after kids: Rekindling desire as new parentsBecoming a parent is one of the...
Redefining pleasure: Moving beyond performance to presence
Redefining pleasure: Moving beyond performance to presenceTrue pleasure isn’t about performance,...
When intimacy feels out of sync: How to reconnect without pressure
When intimacy feels out of sync: How to reconnect without pressureEvery couple faces mismatched...
The art of slow intimacy: Relearning connection in a fast-paced world
The art of slow intimacy: Relearning connection in a fast-paced worldIn an always-on world,...
The confidence gap: How sexual self-awareness shapes every part of your life
The confidence gap: How sexual self-awareness shapes every part of your lifeSexual self-awareness...
Intimacy vs. sex: Understanding the difference (and why both matter)
Intimacy vs. sex: Understanding the difference (and why both matter)Intimacy isn’t the same as...
The power of talking about sex: Why communication is the real aphrodisiac
The power of talking about sex: Why communication is the real aphrodisiac Struggling to talk about...
Everyday habits that secretly boost intimacy
Everyday habits that secretly boost intimacyWhen people think of intimacy, they often picture...
Why desire changes (and how to reignite It)
Why desire changes (and how to reignite It)If you’ve ever caught yourself wondering, “Why don’t I...
Why Corporate Wellness Needs to Include Sexual Health
Why Corporate Wellness Needs to Include Sexual HealthCorporate wellness has evolved from a niche...
What HR Should Know About Sexual Wellness in the Workplace
What HR Should Know About Sexual Wellness in the WorkplaceHR departments are the stewards of...
Breaking the Burnout Cycle: The Role of Sexual Wellness in Stress Management
Breaking the Burnout Cycle: The Role of Sexual Wellness in Stress Management Burnout has become a...
How Good Sex Translates to Great Leadership
How Good Sex Translates to Great Leadership. Leadership is often described as an art—a delicate...
The Role of Sexual Wellness in Building a Thriving Workforce
The Role of Sexual Wellness in Building a Thriving Workforce. In today’s fast-paced corporate...
No shame, no judgment, only pleasure and connection!
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Intimate questions mayday!
The Village’s Intimate Support Coach, Nicki Lyons Brivik is here, to help us were many of us (and our partners!) need help, urgently.
Got a question? You can schedule a session … start the conversation, maximise your pleasure potential. Nicki@asknicki.co.za
“ I have never had an orgasm. HELP!”
The Village, a group on Facebook is 51 000 strong. They partnered with our wonderful Nicki! Here...
Got a question you can’t ASK just anyone? ASK NICKI!
The Village, a group on Facebook is 51 000 strong. They partnered with our wonderful Nicki! So we...
Let’s talk about sex – taking the taboo out the bedroom
Let's talk about sex - taking the taboo out the bedroom!Read more about Nicki hereA religious...
New parents Stephanie & Hungani Ndlovu have opened up about intimacy after childbirth
The couple recently got candid about the difficulties of being intimate after the birth to their daughter.
Want a happier healthier sex life?
Earlier on this month I was interviewed by Vanessa Raphaely the founder of The Village, one of...
